I couldn’t sleep last night.
Not after thinking about the pain of 2 local families who are sorely missing their loved ones taken too early in a plane crash just a mile from Westchester County Airport.
May the memories of Boruch Taub and Ben Chafetz be for a blessing.
Ben’s funeral will take place at 2pm today in Cleveland.
The Air Traffic Control audio of their flight is haunting. Boruch remains calm, but struggles with his single engine plane’s performance and poor visibility.
Some friends expressed their doubts in a G-d who could allow these things to happen. All I can think of is the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s approach to this. That we have so many questions to ask and we pray for Moshiach to come and answer those questions. But in the meantime, may we be spared of any more questions.
Other than sharing a hometown, I wasn’t very close to Ben or Boruch, but they were both incredibly beloved people and pillars of the Cleveland community.
DDF admin Chaikel notes that there wasn’t a cause in the community that Ben didn’t participate in fully.
My last interaction with Ben was an argument.
We were running an adopt a kollel event. Ben wanted to give significantly more than what we were asking. I explained to him the Rov set a cap, and I wouldn't go over the cap. He begged me to let him go over.
It was caught on camera pic.twitter.com/AmMrQBzhbb
— Chaikel (@ChaikelK) January 20, 2023
My first interaction with Ben was when he was a vocal passenger on El Al flight #002, who wanted to set the record straight about that flight when the media was getting it wrong.
Ben helped me get the videos and timeline down to the minute to prove that the flight was not diverted due to reported Haredi violence, but it was El Al covering up for their own actions and trying to shift the blame.
In the end, an inspirational Shabbos was had in Athens, thanks to Chabad there.
Rabbi Hendel of Chabad of Athens shared this about Ben last night,
“Ben was very special person which I got to know during the famous Shabbat in Athens and kept in touch since, he was a person that really cared for others and a person of action, he was very instrumental in making the Athens Mikvah a reality, we will miss him very much.”
Ben was also interviewed last year in the Ami Magazine, where he talks about losing many clients and friends in the 9/11 attacks and how it changed his life, you can read the full article here.
I’ll leave off with Ben’s positive take on his diversion to Athens. If you don’t have time to read the entire post now, you can skip to his beautiful concluding thoughts at the end in bold.
“EL-AL SPONSORED SHABBOS OF UNITY
This Shabbos I had the tremendous privilege to be a part of something amazing, beautiful and enlightening. I am hoping El Al will see this and understand that there is a much better headline than the false headline “Haredim Riot On Plane” which I currently see online.
Here is the short of it.
Our El Al flight was supposed to leave at 6:30pm. 3 members of the crew were late and we started boarding at 8:30pm during which the crew members arrived. At 9:10pm the flight doors were closed and everything was calm for about an hour.
At around 10pm many of the passengers who were concerned about Shabbos starting asking the crew members for detail about departure and no answers were given other than we are leaving in 5 minutes. Keep in mind, that at 10:25pm sitting on a JFK runway, El-AL’s website showed our flight as enroute having departed at 9:30PM.
I was sitting in business class, my seat was directly next to the stairs going to second floor, and 3 rows behind the first class food prep galley. I heard every exchange. At no time was there any physical threat presented by passengers concerned about Shabbos. I am loathe to use the term Chareidim, this was not some Neturei Karta protest full of black clad chasidim spewing nonsense. These were Jews from all walks of life and varied backgrounds who were concerned about Shabbos.
At 11:35pm there were about 40 passengers, myself included, who stood by the exit door and expressed our wishes to disembark from the plane. By this time we were sitting on the tarmac for two and half hours. One of the stewardesses told us that if they take us back to the gate and we get off the plane we would lose our tickets and not be rebooked. I am not sure if she was trying to shock us into sitting or if this was the real policy, but our response was unanimous;. every single person said that’s fine, we are ok with that, just take us back to the gate so we don’t violate Shabbos. Not one person said, “What?? No,you have to rebook us”, or, “you can’t do that”, there was a simple, basic understanding, we had Shabbos.
At one point, someone whom I later found out to be Rabbi Shalom Ber Sorotzkin got on the intercom and said that he spoke to the pilot, and that the pilot guaranteed we would get to the airport before Shabbos, and that he (Rabbi Sorotzkin) arranged for everyone to have a place and a meal for Shabbos if they did not have time get to where they needed since we would arrive only one hour before Shabbos.
Many of us, myself included did not sit down and expressed our desire to go back the gate.
At that point the captain came onto the intercom. He told us we were going to go back to the gate as soon as everyone was seated. And we all went back to our seats.
I can’t begin to describe the sinking feeling in my stomach as I saw the plane turn away from the terminals and face the runway. In less than 6 minutes after telling us to return to our seats to go back to the gate, we were in the air. FY I- there was no Wifi on the flight which meant our only source of information for the rest of the flight was the El-Al crew.
Four hours into the flight the Captain announced that because of the “Cheiredim” the plane would stop in Athens. At which point, all the people who want to get off for Shabbos can get off the plane first, and then, (and here is the kicker), all the people who want to continue to Israel will also have to get off the plane and go on a different plane from IsraAir to go to Israel.
What a shame… I wish El Al had announced the truth. We were stopping in Athens because El-Al made a series of bad calls, and once they landed they could not depart on Shabbos which is why they needed an non El-Al plane to continue to Israel on Shabbos.
This only caused the internal tension to rise and as our only source of information was the crew, who were less than helpful and not at all sympathetic . To be very clear, no one was angry at the stewardesses, everyone understood that they did not make the decisions. We were requesting to speak to the pilot or someone who can speak for the pilot. Again, there was no attempts to break into the cockpit, there were no physical altercations. Yes, there were some raised voices, but most of the time (I have the videos showing) it was secular Israeli passengers who came to yell at the passengers who were concerned about Shabbos that we were ruining their weekend.
This in itself was absurd because we did not make the decision to stop in Athens and the majority of the religious passengers preferred that we continue to Israel and be stuck in the Tel Aviv airport.
As the minutes crept closer to our arrival into Athens there were discussions on the plane about whether it was halachically better to stay on the plane or to disembark in Athens. We had no clue what to expect. Would we stay in the airport? Was there a hotel? What would we eat?
When they served breakfast I realized that the packaged egg which they served for breakfast and the half a sandwich I had left from when I boarded the plane could very well be all we had to eat on Shabbos. I even put some nuts into my backpack for Shalosh Seudos.
When it was clear that we were landing in Athens and we would begin our descent we returned to our seats. Many of us tried to separate our Muktza items and to make sure our Tallis and Siddur were easily accessible.
After the plane landed and we stopped we disembarked on one of those rollaway staircases to get onto one of several shuttles. I was one of the first people onto the shuttle and I watched as dozens of more Yidden came off the plane with no other thought than, to stay on the plane would be chillul Shabbos, and getting off the plane was the best chance of keeping Shabbos. Chasidim got off the plane, men with black hats, colored shirts, in t-shirts, in suits, women with sheitels, snoods, no sheitels, in skirts, in pants; everyone coming off the plane was united in one thing – We believe in Hashem, and his Torah, and Shabbos was our gift and our inheritance and we would keep it.
As the first shuttle was full and started towards the airport (there were more shuttles behind us) everyone broke into a song for Shabbos Kodesh.
Once we got to the airport we were met by a women from El Al who was very sweet and took the time to explain to us that we were would be staying across the street (literally) at a hotel and they would take us as soon as the other shuttles arrive.
As they led us into the hotel it was very chaotic. There were four hotel clerks and people started surging towards the front desk. At that point, one Rabbi, whom I later learned was Rabbi Akiva Katz yelled above the crowd and explained to everyone that we would need to create orderly lines in order not to overwhelm the clerks. He also let us know that they had set aside a place for davening and that Chabad had prepared food. This helped reduce the stress in the room and the process became more orderly as people were focused on getting to their rooms and ready for Shabbos in the 40 minutes we had left to Shkia.
Walking into Kabbalas Shabbos (I was late) was beautiful. The room was full of 60 or 70 men and about 10 women and everyone was singing. Rabbi Jesse Horn from Yeshiva Ateres Kohanim led Kabbalas Shabbos. We were all so happy to be able to keep Shabbos, and the davening and level of simcha was very high. I think we must have danced four or five times during Kabbalas Shabbos and Maariv.
After Kabbalas Shabbos we walked through the hotel to the dining area and I can tell you with 100% conviction that what I saw was beyond anything I could have imagined.
85% of the dining area was reserved for our Shabbos meal. The tables were set beautifully with bottles of wine, grape juice and challah rolls. Where the hotel usually displayed it’s salad bars, and assortment of cold meats it was now filled with platters of gefilte fish, 6 or 7 large bowls with a variety of salads and dips, it was as if this had planned for weeks in advance. There was plenty of fleish for the main course and an assortment of side dishes to accompany it.
The Seudah was beautiful and everyone sang zemiros and niggunim and there were many Divrei Torah. Several people had stopped at the Duty free store to get bourbon and scotch for the Oilam, and it was very leibdige and the singing went on for quite a while.
I woke up several times during the night as I was still on NY time and every time I went downstairs to the lobby there were people learning together or talking about the Parsha.
Shacharis was another beautiful davening and it was interesting to see how it was a mix of Nusach Sefard, Sefardi, Ashkenaz.
After davening several people went to the kitchen to help Rabbi and Rebbetzin Hendel (the Chabad Shluchim in Athens) prepare for seuda.
There were also two shiurim being given, one in Hebrew, and one in English by Rabbi Yossi Baumol.
After the Shiurim we went to the dining room where like the previous night there were copious amounts of delicious food, a wonderful meat kugel wrapped in pastry, brisket, a large assortment of salads. Unlike the previous night, where everyone sat next to people who were closest to them hashkafically, the seating during the Shabbos day Seuda was heterogeneous. Chasidim sat and schmoozed with Tzionim, Modox sat with black hats… I only use these labels so you can visualize the seating, but there were no labels at this Seuda, we sat in true achdus.
The rest of Shabbos and the subsequent trip back to the airport and our return flight to Israel was unremarkable in that I don’t need to bore you with the details.
First I would like to thank the following people.
Rabbi Shalom Ber Sorotzkin who had the foresight before the plane took off to have his organization contact El-Al and Chabad and put pressure on to make this Shabbos happen.
Rabbi and Rebbetzin Hendel, the Chabad Rabbi and Rebbetzin based in Athens, Greece. They got the call at 11am Friday morning and by 4pm that same afternoon they had prepared a beautiful Shabbos for 150+ adults which was not lacing in anyway.
My 150+ new friends and passengers who gave me an experience and Shabbos I will never forget.
Now a quick note to to El-AL.
Hi El-Al, I don’t know who handles your marketing and social media program but you wasted a huge opportunity. Next time this happens, here is what you do. You make sure you get the same hotel and that Chabad sets up a beautiful Shabbos. You hire a Greek photographer and video guy, you video the amazing Shabbos – and then you promote it as an El-Al sponsored Shabbos Unity. If you need more advice feel free to call or email me, or just send me some tickets as a thank you.
I would like to leave off with a few thoughts having just spent one of the most amazing Shabbos of my life.
1. 150+ Jews from all backgrounds and hashkafic orientations, wearing every outfit possible walked off a plane with one thought – We will keep Shabbos, even if it means sleeping in an airport.
2. Unlike our Great Grandparents, who were fired if the did not work on Shabbos (USA), or where were ostracized, and possibly incarcerated for keeping Shabbos (USSR). How often do we get a chance to be moser nefesh for Shabbos? This was a tremendous gift from Hashem to us that we had the chance to show Hashem how much we love him and his Torah, and we ALL took it.
3. Every parent in that hotel who was not able to be home with their children that Shabbos taught their child a lesson that they could not have taught them in a 100 Shabbosim at home. They showed that Shabbos means so much to Mommy, Tatty, Ima, Abba, etc that they would walk off a plane in the middle of a foreign country with no guaranty of food or a place to sleep.
4. Yom Tov in the Beis Hamikdash was probably like this Shabbos. Jews from all over coming together for Hashem and his mitzvos.I hope to see all of my fellow passengers this Pesach bringing korbanos in the Beis Hamikdash.
May we be zoche to see Mashiach and the return of the Beis Hamikdash.
With much love,
Ben Chafetz”
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Just heartbreaking
BDE sorry for the tragic loss to your community. Bring MASHIACH NOW!!
Truly no words. Heartbreaking. I didn’t know either of them and I’m sorry for myself that I didn’t. They both sound like such wonderful people.
יהי זכרם ברוך!
Wow Truly remarkable
dan not getting the text notifications!
Baruch Dayan Emet, so unfortunate.
Points 3 and 4 at the end had me in tears. Yehi Zichrum Baruch.
wow just from reading the article you can see that this was a man with a real simchas hachaim and a true ahavas yisrael pls update the post with both of their fathers names so people can have in mind.
Baruch Dayan Ha’Emes. Going to print Ben’s story to read at my shabbos seuda. Should be a zechus
Link to levaya
https://view.oneroomstreaming.com/index.php?data=MTY3NDI1MTY3NjIzMTU0NyZvbmVyb29tLWFkbWluJmNvcHlfbGluaw==
Baruch Dayan HaEmet.
I thought a proper way of honoring the niftarim is donating to Chabad of Athens Greece:
https://www.chabad.gr/templates/articlecco_cdo/aid/4983566/jewish/Donate-online.htm
May their memory be a blessing and may we have Mashiach ASAP!
A better way would be helping their widows and orphans.
Agreed! Can definitely do both! Any information on donating to the family?
Heartbreaking yet wonderful post. May there wonderful Neshamos have an Aliya and poel the Geulah for all of us.
“Some friends expressed their doubts in a G-d who could allow these things to happen.”
I found this to be a very poor choice of words.
They’re not my words. 🙁
Of course not.. Just to see those words quoted from fellow Yidden is chilling.
עיני עיני ירדה מים…
Dan, you did an amazing job on this post (as always).
Here’s hoping that this is the last such post. I can think of much better deals…
Amen!
Engine found to have a hole in the crankcase. Oil leak.
I must admit. I followed this story since it broke, like many others. Unfortunately, I did not get emotional once I heard the tragic end. But reading Ben’s Elal story brought me to tears. יהא זכרו ברוך
Amen
“Of course not.. Just to see those words quoted from fellow Yidden is chilling”
We do not judge other people who went through major tragedy, just understand they’re in pain.
R Moshe said you can’t judge a holocaust survivor.
I think this implies to anyone who go through a major tragedy.
It’s always the special ones…
Yes, one special person can atone for thousands of regular people like me.
Hashem is trying to get our attention, I don’t know what for, but I’m going to try to learn more this week.
Thank you Dan for your touching post. I have shared it with ex Clevelanders
So sad. We have lost some of our best, Please reconsider piloting small aircraft.
Dan you are a very positive and skilled writer! It’s sad to see your skill come out under these circumstances. I’d like to see more positive articles on from you on your website
יהי זכרם ברוך
Seems like you shouldn’t travel close to Shabbos as is the Halacha. This all could have avoided. For sure Jews were at least partly to blame. Chabad as usual , saves the day. They move mountains with a cc and two hours notice.
Listening to the ATC recording was crazy. It wasn’t just Boruch who was calm but that air traffic controller was amazing at remaining calm and positive through the whole event which I’m sure helped Boruch as well. BDE
Dan,
I have been following you for a long time. I went to two of your seminars. While I appreciate getting great flight deals and tips and I am always happy to save $20 on diapers or seltzer or whatever this coverage was really special. Not from Cleveland, didn’t know these guys but it definitely bothered me a great deal and I printed and read some of this stuff at my Shabbos table. Looking forward to hearing more great things about Baruch Taub z”l and Ben z”l from you as well as others. I am sure by next Shabbos this will be featured in some of our frummy publications. We should share in simchos!
B
Heartbreaking.
With everything going on out there, I hope and pray this was not a case of someone sabotaging the engine.
BD’E x 2
Thanks Dan for writing it and bringing back Ben chafets z”l words, you should only have to report on simchos בשורות טובות and to greet משיח בקרוב!! The 4 points about shabos is beautiful
What a great post,such sensitivity and clarity
Ben was a close friend. he was one of a kind. lets work on our bitachon and emunah and trust in hashem…and daven for moshiach
I didn’t know them but having grown up in Cleveland, it hits home